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my friends wife is cheating on him

Dear Lara, Should I tell my friend I caught his fiancee cheating?

Question: I recently found out my friend’s fiancee is cheating on him. Do I tell him? If I don’t and he finds out I knew, wouldn’t he see this as a betrayal of our friendship? At the same time, I wouldn’t want to be the cause of their split as he would surely be devastated by this news.  -To tell or not to tell

Answer: Knew this question was going to come sooner or later. So there is you, there is your friend (let’s call him John, shall we?), and there is the cheating fiancee (whom we shall call Rose).

Firstly, I want to assume you are ABSOLUTELY sure she is cheating. Also, you mentioned he is your friend, but I need to ask you, how 

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I found out that my wife of 9 years was ‘The Landlord’

Dear Lara, I found out that my wife of 9 years was my landlord

QuestionI am a middle-aged man of average means. About 5 years ago, my wife kept urging us to move out of our flat to a different area due to flooding in that area. After looking around together with an agent she got, she insisted on a particular flat in Magodo which, though slightly more affordable than the other options at the time, was not my preferred choice as it was farther from our offices than my preferred option.

I wouldn’t consider myself a debtor and I usually paid previous rents relatively promptly. Since we moved to the new place however, she always gave constant reminders once the rent was almost due and insisted it be paid on the exact date. Two years ago she also informed me that the landlord (who lived abroad) wanted the yearly rent 2 months early for some urgent reason, and we managed to meet the request, which didn’t stop ‘the landlord’ from increasing our rent the following year.

While searching her phone recently to retrieve some important numbers to my new phone, I couldn’t help noticing a text message from the agent confirming he had recently forwarded my rent to her account, less his commission! What do I do? While we have the typical ups and downs of any marriage, our marriage could nevertheless be described as blissful. -My Landlord, My Wife

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someone is stealing my coke from the fridge

Dear Lara, There is a thief in my office

Question: I work in a small friendly open plan office somewhere in Victoria Island, Lagos, comprising 6 co-workers, our boss, and myself.
I usually bring along a can of Coke as part of my lunch, and put this in the fridge in the shared office kitchen beside the office area.
For the past few weeks however, I always meet the Coke can empty whenever I am ready to have lunch. I initially figured it’s only a can of Coke afterall, and even found it funny, especially as the culprit always puts the empty can right back in the fridge.
However, it is now getting on my nerves as no one seems to know anything about it, it is starting to become a distraction, and is also making me look foolish.
My amateur detective moves have included randomly going to the kitchen and adjoining toilet, covertly watching my co-workers, listening intently to sounds from the kitchen area etc, all to no avail.  -The Case of the Missing Coke

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