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my friends wife is cheating on him

Dear Lara, Should I tell my friend I caught his fiancee cheating?

Question: I recently found out my friend’s fiancee is cheating on him. Do I tell him? If I don’t and he finds out I knew, wouldn’t he see this as a betrayal of our friendship? At the same time, I wouldn’t want to be the cause of their split as he would surely be devastated by this news.  -To tell or not to tell

Answer: Knew this question was going to come sooner or later. So there is you, there is your friend (let’s call him John, shall we?), and there is the cheating fiancee (whom we shall call Rose).

Firstly, I want to assume you are ABSOLUTELY sure she is cheating. Also, you mentioned he is your friend, but I need to ask you, how 

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I found out that my wife of 9 years was ‘The Landlord’

Dear Lara, I found out that my wife of 9 years was my landlord

QuestionI am a middle-aged man of average means. About 5 years ago, my wife kept urging us to move out of our flat to a different area due to flooding in that area. After looking around together with an agent she got, she insisted on a particular flat in Magodo which, though slightly more affordable than the other options at the time, was not my preferred choice as it was farther from our offices than my preferred option.

I wouldn’t consider myself a debtor and I usually paid previous rents relatively promptly. Since we moved to the new place however, she always gave constant reminders once the rent was almost due and insisted it be paid on the exact date. Two years ago she also informed me that the landlord (who lived abroad) wanted the yearly rent 2 months early for some urgent reason, and we managed to meet the request, which didn’t stop ‘the landlord’ from increasing our rent the following year.

While searching her phone recently to retrieve some important numbers to my new phone, I couldn’t help noticing a text message from the agent confirming he had recently forwarded my rent to her account, less his commission! What do I do? While we have the typical ups and downs of any marriage, our marriage could nevertheless be described as blissful. -My Landlord, My Wife

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Dear Lara, I visited home and witnessed something I shouldn’t have

Question: During a quick visit home from my nearby university in Lagos, Nigeria, I walked in on my parents in the kitchen, in what I would call, a very embarrassing position, involving, some ice cream and a banana.
My reflex reaction was to immediately retreat and head back to the school hostel, and I haven’t been back home in the weeks following the incident.
While my dad has stoicly kept silent since then, my mum however, has been unsuccessfully trying to reach me for weeks.

I am no child, but don’t know how to face them after this, and I fear the longer I put it off, the worse it would get, especially as I have now run out of pocket money. -Going Bananas

Answer: I guess you now know why there always seemed to be ice cream and fruits in the house when growing up, and

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Regal flowers who to pick between two ladies

Dear Lara, I met this lady, but like her friend more..

Question: I recently met a nice lady, Lily, and she subsequently brought her friend, Rose, along when we hungout. During the course of the day and subsequent interactions with them however, I realized I had a lot more in common with Rose, and am now more attracted to her.

How do I proceed without hurting Lily’s feelings, and also without missing a potential life mate in Rose.      – A tale of two ladies

Answer: This is a dicey one, as hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, especially considering the two ladies are friends. Eventually however, the points to consider are; 1) How close they both are to each other, 2) How

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